Addiction of any kind and the recovery process affects family dynamics in multiple ways. People assume different roles throughout the process and grapple with the addiction on an individual basis. The best route is not always separation as that can leave the individual suffering from substance abuse without the resources to recover and at risk of other negative sequelae like homelessness. The first step to healing is the acknowledgment of the role you have assumed in the dynamic. Below is a list of some roles family members assume in a household that struggles with addiction.
This represents the person or people struggling with addiction. Their illness tends to have negative repercussions for those around them. Whether the family is dealing with stigma or the actual interworkings of addiction and its consequences, the dynamic hinges on the actions of this individual.
This represents the person who acts out to get attention and counteract the attention that the addict receives. They may break the law or behave recklessly all in an effort to subvert attention. This individual may also develop an addiction themselves.
This represents the person who tries to make light of the difficulties through humor. After an incident like a parent receiving a DUI while dealing with alcoholism, this person might crack a joke to ease the tension. Unfortunately, however, this person is not dealing with the difficult emotions that addiction can bring up in a family and solely working to satisfy others.
Also sometimes called the enabler, this represents the person who is always looking out for the addict. They might take care of the addict when the addict is sick and help them to cover up their addiction somehow. Like others in the family dynamic, their ultimate goal is to keep everyone around them happy - sometimes at the expense of themselves.
This represents the person who stays out of the public eye. They try to fly under the radar with an unassuming presence and quiet spectacle. Most people in the family dynamic are unaware of their opinions on anything related to addiction. They may separate themselves from the family dynamic over time.
This represents the person who tries to keep an outward display of perfection for the family. They may collaborate with the caretaker to hide and enable the behavior. Often, this person may assume an obsessive and compulsive personality disorder where they prioritize order over the recklessness of their reality.Whether you are the addict, the scapegoat, the comedian, the caretaker, the overlooked, or the prim and perfect, there is an opportunity to break from the family cycle and seek help. By confronting the main issue that the family is dealing with, you can come to terms with the role you have assumed and decide how you want to change your participation. We recommend anyone who’s dealing with addiction or who assumed a role in a family dynamic should seek therapy to break the cycle. That being said, here are some simple tips on how to break the cycle.
These patterns can be quite difficult to overcome. They require a level of vulnerability that many people never reach. That being said, if you can acknowledge your role and how you plan to overturn it, you will likely find yourself in a happier place.
Those living with the illness of addiction and their family members tend to assume different roles in the family dynamic. In a given family, roles can include the addict, the scapegoat, the comedian, the caretaker, and the prim and perfect. To begin to change these dynamics, the addict should seek treatment, but also identify who might be playing each role in their life. At our residential facility located in beautiful Denver, Colorado, we treat addiction and co-occurring mental illnesses. With the help of trained professionals, you can begin recovery and help heal your family. At our facility, you can come off drugs in a safe environment and then learn the skills to stay aware. With our therapeutic services, you will learn the skills to cope with life stresses in a healthier manner. If you are looking for the support we can offer you, do not hesitate to reach out at 720-669-1285.