When your husband is struggling with addiction, boundaries can feel confusing, scary, and emotionally loaded. Many wives know they need boundaries, but they do not know what boundaries are supposed to sound like, how to communicate them without escalating conflict, or how to follow through without feeling cruel or abandoning. Boundaries are not punishments.They are […]
Author Archives: Valiant Living Professionals Program for Men
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Jan
Jan
When a loved one is struggling with addiction, many spouses reach a breaking point. They feel exhausted, scared, angry, and desperate for change. In that moment, ultimatums often feel like the only option left.“Get help or I’m done.”“Change or I’m leaving.”“This is your last chance.” While ultimatums can come from deep pain and fear, they […]
Addiction, Gambling Addiction, health and wellness, Mental Health, Pornography, Sex Addiction, Treatment
When Willpower Isn’t Enough: When Men Need Professional Treatment
10
Jan
Jan
Most men entering recovery believe one thing above all else:If I just try harder, this will change. Willpower feels like strength. Discipline feels like the answer. For many men, pushing through discomfort has worked in other areas of life. But addiction does not respond to effort the way careers, fitness, or productivity do. When willpower […]
Addiction, alcoholism, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Sex Addiction, Treatment
Emotional Regulation for Men: Learning to Feel Without Escaping
10
Jan
Jan
For many men, addiction is not about pleasure.It is about escape. Alcohol, pornography, gambling, and other compulsive behaviors often function as tools to regulate discomfort. Stress, anxiety, shame, loneliness, boredom, or emotional pain build internally until escape feels necessary. Recovery requires learning a skill most men were never taught: emotional regulation. What Emotional Regulation Actually […]
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Jan
Jan
Sleep is one of the most overlooked pillars of recovery. Many men focus on stopping the behavior, managing urges, or rebuilding trust, while ignoring the foundation that makes all of that possible: rest. Without consistent, restorative sleep, emotional regulation weakens, cravings intensify, and decision-making deteriorates. In recovery, sleep is not a luxury. It is a […]
05
Jan
Jan
Recovery is often framed as emotional work or behavioral change. While those pieces matter, many men overlook one of the most powerful recovery tools available to them: nutrition. Addiction impacts the brain, but it also deeply affects the gut, nervous system, hormones, and energy regulation. Without addressing these systems, many men struggle with mood instability, […]
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Dec
Dec
Many men enter January wondering the same thing:“Do I really have a problem, or did things just get out of hand?” The language we use around drinking matters. Terms like problem drinking, heavy use, or stress drinking often feel safer than the word addiction. They create space to minimize, rationalize, or delay change. But for […]
Addiction, alcoholism, Mental Health, Recovery, Relationships, Treatment, Uncategorized
The Holiday Relapse Trap: Why Stress and Isolation Trigger Addictive Behaviors in Men
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Dec
Dec
Holiday relapse prevention for men becomes critical during a season filled with stress, isolation, and emotional pressure. While the holidays are often marketed as a time of connection and joy, many men in recovery from sex addiction, pornography addiction, or gambling addiction experience the opposite. Increased stress, disrupted routines, financial strain, and emotional disconnection can […]
Addiction, Family, Mental Health, Pornography, Recovery, Relationships, Sex Addiction, sobriety
Healing From Betrayal Trauma During the Holidays: A Guide for Spouses
15
Dec
Dec
The holidays are supposed to feel warm, connected, and joyful. But for spouses who have experienced betrayal trauma due to sex addiction, pornography addiction, or gambling addiction, the season often brings the opposite. The pressure to “hold things together,” show up at gatherings, maintain traditions, or pretend everything is fine can feel unbearable. Instead of […]
Addiction, Pornography, Sex Addiction, Treatment
What Process Addiction Really Looks Like: Beyond the Stereotypes
15
Dec
Dec
When people hear the term process addiction, they often picture extreme or sensational behaviors. Something dramatic. Something obvious. Something that clearly signals a crisis. The reality is very different. Process addictions like sex addiction, porn addiction, and gambling addiction rarely begin with chaos. They begin quietly, gradually, and often invisibly. Many men who struggle look […]