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Dealing with a “Victim Mentality” Spouse in Active Addiction
Every conversation ends the same way. You bring up the gambling. He talks about stress. You mention the drinking. He...
For partners
“Is It My Fault?” Answering the Partner’s Hardest Question
Partners often ask “Is it my fault?” after betrayal. Learn why self-blame happens and how trauma-informed care supports...
For partners
What Is Betrayal Trauma? Signs and Symptoms
Learn what betrayal trauma is, common signs and symptoms, and how trauma-informed treatment supports partners impacted...
For partners
Setting Boundaries: A Script for Wives
Learn how to set healthy boundaries with an addicted spouse using clear language and follow-through. A practical script...
For partners
The Ultimatum Trap vs. The Leverage Model
Learn the difference between ultimatums and leverage in addiction recovery, why ultimatums often fail, and how families...
Infidelity
Healing From Betrayal Trauma During the Holidays: A Guide for Spouses
Betrayal trauma can intensify during the holidays. Learn how to find stability, protect your emotional health, and...
Infidelity
When Your Husband is Addicted to Gambling: What Spouses Need to Know
Learn how gambling addiction affects marriages, what betrayal trauma looks like, and how spouses can regain safety and...
Recovery
How Do I Fall Back in Love with My Spouse in My Recovery?
The statement, “an alcoholic in his cups is an unlovely creature,” from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, page 16,...