Bringing families back together
Valiant Living is a premium men's addiction and trauma treatment program in the Colorado Rockies. We walk families from the hardest moment of discovery to the day he comes home with the tools to sustain long-term recovery.
Since 2017Joint Commission accreditedLegitScript certified
Every call is free, confidential, and answered by a real person.
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You don't need the clinical words yet
The promises, the deleting, the finding it again. What looks high functioning on the outside is usually costing more than anyone can see.
Read about hidden porn useWhen it keeps happening, it isn't about the other person. Compulsive infidelity has a pattern, and the pattern can be treated.
Understand the patternGambling hides longer than most addictions. If your gut has been telling you something for a while, it's worth listening to.
Read about gambling addictionAlcohol, pills, or something else. Maybe he's tried to cut back. Maybe you've stopped counting. There is a difference between a habit and a hijacking, and it matters.
Vice or addiction
A word from our founder, and a way forward for your family
I built Loving Leverage for the person reading this page: the person who loves a man they can't fix. But before I tell you how it works, I want you to hear something I believe after thirty years of sitting with men like yours. He is not a bad man. He's a man in hiding, and nobody hates the hiding more than he does. Underneath the broken promises there's usually shame, not malice, and shame doesn't respond to pressure. It responds to being found.
Loving Leverage is how you hold both truths at once: real compassion for him and real protection for you. You stay warm, you become immovable, and you let honest weight, not anger, do the moving. It's the difference between an ultimatum he waits out and a boundary that changes the weather, for him, for you, and for everyone who loves him.
The plan
Talk with a real person, confidentially, whether or not he knows you're calling. Many of us have sat exactly where you're sitting.
An honest assessment of what's actually going on, and the right level of care for it, even if that isn't us.
Treatment for him, real support for you, and a path back to each other. Recovery that only happens to one person doesn't last.
Confidential. No pressure. Just a conversation.
The thing beneath the thing
The Wellness Program
Recovery here isn't only clinical. A daily rhythm of yoga, meditation, and movement, plus weekly outdoor experiential therapy in the Colorado wild, helps each man reconnect with his body and not just his thoughts. We treat the whole man: physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual.
And none of it is recreation for its own sake. Wellness sits at the core of the program because a regulated body can go deeper into trauma work than a white-knuckled one, and because some healing only happens outdoors. Every summit, river, and horse has a clinical reason for being there.
One continuum of care
Safe, medically monitored detox in Fort Lupton, with a direct path into treatment.
valiantdetox.comFull interruption of the pattern, and the deep work underneath it.
Learn moreDay treatment and IOP as recovery takes hold and life resumes.
Learn moreHealing for the people he loves, and a brotherhood that doesn't end at discharge.
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Life after treatment
Weekly alumni meetings, speaker nights, and an annual mountain retreat. When a man joins Valiant, he joins for life, and for an intimacy disorder, ongoing connection is the treatment continuing by other means.
"Valiant gave me my husband back, and gave him back to himself. I didn't believe that was possible when I made the first call."
Resources
From addiction to connection. Conversations with thought leaders, betrayed partners, clinicians, and alumni, built on the Loving Leverage framework created by Michael Dinneen.
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Straight answers
Valiant Living is primarily a private-pay program, which is what allows us to run the level of clinical care, staff ratios, and wellness integration we do. We're out of network with most insurance companies, but we work directly with them on your behalf to maximize whatever coverage is possible. The most useful next step is a confidential call; we'll walk through your specific situation honestly, including what to expect financially.
Our full program is 90 days, and that's where we see the best results by a wide margin. Real change to the patterns underneath addiction takes longer than a month. We don't ask families to commit to 90 days sight-unseen, though. We start with 30 days, evaluate honestly at that point, and go from there. Most men who begin choose to stay.
Men, 26 and older, dealing with addiction and the intimacy disorder underneath it. That includes pornography and sex addiction, alcohol and substance use, gambling, and the trauma, anxiety, depression, and relationship damage that ride along with them. Our clinical team, supervised by Michael Dinneen, LCSW, CSAT-S, is built specifically for this work.
Yes, and it's a feature, not a fee. An intimacy disorder is a relationship injury, and it heals relationally. Spouses and families get education, support, and their own healing track here, not a visiting day. Recovery that only happens to the man rarely lasts. Bringing families back together is the entire point.
Call anyway. Most first calls to us come from a wife or family member, not the man himself, and long before he's picked up the phone on his own. That's exactly the moment Loving Leverage, our founder's approach, is designed for: how a family invites real change without burning down its own life to force it. We can help you think it through, whether or not he's ready today.
Yes, foundationally. Many of the men we treat are professionals with careers, licenses, and reputations to protect, and the program is built accordingly. The first call is confidential too, whether it comes from you or from someone who loves you. Nothing about reaching out puts anyone at risk.
Still have questions? A confidential call is the fastest way to a real answer. (720) 669-1285
You don't need it to get worse first. Right now is reason enough to call.
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