Episode Summary

Have you ever considered that addiction isn’t just about substances? Beneath the surface of many addictive behaviors lies something profoundly misunderstood—process addiction. Join host Drew Powell as he sits down with therapists Dan and Jill from Valiant Living to unpack this complex topic with remarkable candor and expertise.

“The drug is between your ears,” explains Dan, highlighting how process addictions like sex addiction, gambling, internet/gaming, and shopping create the same neurological pathways as substance use, but the source is your own brain producing dopamine. This fascinating conversation reveals why these addictions are often missed or minimized despite their devastating impact on relationships and mental health.

The therapists explain that at its core, every addiction is fundamentally an intimacy disorder—a broken connection. The addiction becomes the primary relationship, pushing loved ones aside as walls of secrecy and shame grow taller. “Your addiction wants you alone,” Dan shares, describing how isolation feeds the cycle. While substances numb feelings, process addictions often seek to create feelings, making them particularly complex to treat.

For family members, the discussion offers invaluable insights into recognizing warning signs and supporting recovery without becoming detective-investigators themselves. The specialists emphasize that recovery requires addressing the “why” beneath behaviors, not just managing symptoms, and that the brain needs 75-120 days just to reach baseline functioning where deeper therapeutic work can begin.

Whether you’re personally struggling with process addiction, supporting someone who is, or simply seeking understanding, this episode delivers profound wisdom about the path toward genuine connection and freedom. As one recovering addict shares, “My worst day in recovery is better than my best day in addiction.” Discover why true strength means asking for help and how community transforms isolation into healing.